Good relationships are definitely good sources of happiness in this life, especially if it concerns a romantic relationship or if it involves marriage, as this is a foundation of building one good and happy family. We may have found the right person and there may be lots of love, but if we fail in making relationships work, life may not be as happy as we think it would be.
We all want happy and fulfilling relationships and but if we do not keep that relationship alive, it can also be one of the most distressing things in life. Many of us may have gone through heartbreaks or some may have ended up in a divorce. Although heartbreaks are normal in dating, it can be somehow frustrating to think that we have finally found Mr. Right, married him but eventually ended up in a divorce.
From my experiences in life and from the many books that I have read about relationships, I have been trying to have a guide in making relationships work. There may be no hard and fast rules in making good relationships, as each of us has different preferences and points of view as to what is a great relationship, but I have found these two major key players in making relationships work.
It is often said that building good relationships is all about communication. Even if you are just starting out with dating, communication plays a major role in finding your perfect partner. Good communication indeed governs a good relationship - knowing the right thing to say, when to say it, how to say it, and accepting that some things that are better left unsaid.
I remembered one friend who confided in me how he was shocked to find out about huge credit card debts that his wife has incurred without his knowledge. He said he never felt so betrayed in his married life than a wife not telling him of her splurges in spending. Worst, it led to more marriage conflicts and divorce.
Truly, a gap in communication can bring a relationship down, and especially for married couples, I personally think communication must be broadened because building a family involves more decisions to make. From finances to religion, from intimacies to child responsibility and even in things about yourself or about your partner that you do not know, communication is essential in these aspects of the relationships.
Mutual Respect and Support for Each Other
Of course, being with someone is not saying that you totally agree with him all the time. You and your partner come from different family backgrounds, raised in different environments so there may be disagreements here and there. However, it is important in making relationships work to express disagreements without pushing the relationship to end. Again, good communication and learning to compromise at times are essential.
As the relationship lasts longer, you may also discover things about you and your partner that you may not have known before. Therefore, supporting each other on both your 'hidden selves' can also make a mature relationship.
Love is an important aspect of building relationships and for me, I always believe that love needs to be complemented with open communication, mutual respect, support and understanding in making relationships work. You can then work on the small things that spice up your marriage or your romantic relationship to make it more fun and interesting.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Keys to Making Relationships Work by caroline Anderson
Sex is a normal process that can bring intense pleasure and happiness in you life. But like other body functions such as digestion, it can be upset by factors like a bad mood, stress or similar such things.
A happy sex life is the outcome of two mutually understanding, cooperative and caring people. The first effort you can do to re-ignite your love life is to establish a close and comfortable relationship with each other. Move forward to understand each other emotions, feeling as well as likes and dislikes.
Many a time it is seen that ego becomes the main hurdle to bring two people close enough to share their intimate moments with each other. Know what he likes and what not. Doing this will not let you down in front of him rather will make you the best partner. A happy relationship can heightened your sexual desire and turn your bedroom into a love den.
Let see the major factors that can upset the normal sexual responsiveness. It is seen that a relation shattered when your boyfriend do not met your expectation. This generally occurs when you overexpect him. Love is something that should be unconditional. When you try to give your best without any return demands or expectations, you will find happiness to the height that was never before.
Another reason for upset relationship is the fear of pregnancy; fear of pain; fear of being caught, heard or interrupted. Also sometimes the fear of not performing well in bed also makes you a less responsive to your partner. The only solution of such problems is the open conversation with your partner. Have a frank conversation with him, win his confidence before these problems ruin your sex life.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
GETING YOUR BOYFRIEND BACK-THE EASIEST WAY OUT
Relationships are a part of life that everyone experiences at some time or another. However, relationships do not always turn out the way that you envision them to. If you are one of the many women who have lost their boyfriend or are growing farther apart from their boyfriend, you may be asking yourself “what steps can I take to get my boyfriend back or to prevent losing him altogether?” If you properly use various psychological tactics, you can have a better chance of maintaining your relationship with the person you love. Of course, one must always remember that all men are different, but there are proven steps to winning any man's love. There are some steps that you will want to take if you are trying to rekindle the love you have or had with your boyfriend.
The first step you have to take is more for yourself than for anyone else. You have to be able to accept that for the time being he does not want to be your boyfriend. This may not be an easy step. In fact, it is the most difficult step for many women. However, you can learn this acceptance, as it will be highly beneficial to you in this situation. If you cannot accept the break up or the loss of love that is occurring, you may fall into a desperate state. If you fall into a desperate state, it is likely that this will put more distance in between the two of you, and you’ll still be wondering “how can I get my boyfriend back?” Sending multiple letters or gifts can sometimes come off as desperation to men so it is best to keep your cool at this juncture. When a male sees that you are accepting the break up it will make him reflect more on the situation at hand and the possibility of losing you forever.
Also, you will not want your ex-boyfriend to have any notions that you are mourning over him, as this is in the same category as desperation. It is wise to try your hardest to move on. Take care of yourself and try not to cause yourself too much pain thinking about the past and what may or may not have been. Think back to your single days and do some of those things you haven’t been able to since you’ve been in a relationship. Hook up with single friends and go out on the town. Have fun and try to get your mind off of your ex. Some casual dating might not even be a bad idea. Word that you are just fine, out and having a good time might just get back to your ex. When he sees that you are moving on he may just start to realize how important you are to him.
Acceptance will show your emotional maturity and a lack of mourning for him will show him that you are strong. Strength and confidence are much more attractive than desperation and neediness. As long as you can stay healthy and keep a positive outlook on things, you will stand a good chance at winning him back.
Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend - How to Get Rid of the New Guy
You just learned that your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend and now you realize that you still love her. You want to get her back but it is not going to be easy. Why? She seems really happy with the new guy!
As you read this article you will find out how to get your ex girlfriend back even when she looks happy with her new boyfriend.
What should you do when your ex girlfriend is already dating another guy? We all know that rebound relationships can keep some people forget or skip bitter emotions that comes with breaking up. They are used to help broken hearts recover and move on.
If you think she is on a rebound relationship this only means that she still has deep feelings for you. And now she is in the process of emotionally escaping from what she truly feels. It is not important why you have broken up or who's fault the separation was.
Right now, what matters is that you still love each other. Remember, only relationships built and forged by true love can be saved. This will help keep your hopes up in trying to get her back.
Your girlfriend will try to do everything to forget you. If you are "goody-good guy" type, her new boyfriend probably is the "bad boy" kind of guy. She will try to be with someone who is entirely different from the kind of guy you are.
When this happens, it certainly will be in your favor. She may unconsciously be thinking of you and focuses her attention on you when she is with the other guy. And, it gives her a chance to figure out what she really wants and searches for.
You should also realize that she is doing this because she is "wanting" and missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she's with her rebound guy to improve yourself, your character and be suitable to whatever she is looking for.
Don't worry, she will not forget all about you. On the contrary, as she spends more time with this new guy she will start to notice his "unlikeble" characteristics. This in turn will start to make you look pretty good.
That's why it is important for you to remember not to crawl back to her right away. Let her miss you. The good side and even the bad side of you.
When your ex girlfriend starts to show any signs that she is interested to getting back with you, show her warmth in welcoming her back. This is exactly what you should do if you really want to get your ex girlfriend back from her new boyfriend.
To summarize, here are the steps you should take:
1. Do not try to convince her that she is better off without the other guy and you are the love of her life. Let her find true love on her own.
2. Say sorry for whatever you have done and mean it. After that, there is no need to apologize repeatedly.
3. Never make false promises that you will change according to what she wants. You are who you are and that's the reason why she fell in love with you. But don't forget that it is always better to have room for being a better person than who you are.
4. Never lose your self-respect. Simply put, definitely "NO" begging and pleading just to get her back. Never ask her if she wants to come back to you. Let her make the first move.
5. Don't despair and lose hope. The rebound relationship she is in right now is just a sign that there is actually hope. It is her way of trying to get over you and let go of the painful feelings that resulted from your break up.
Emotional Abuse - 7 Signs That You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse can be harder to identify, because emotionally abusive tendencies can slowly creep into a relationship in the form of unhealthy patterns. Emotionally abusive partners seek to manipulate you. They often don't want to hurt you, but they're controlling nature makes them act out in a way that is mentally and emotionally harmful.
Here are some signs that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship:
* You feel that you can't express yourself freely with your partner, or you have to "walk on eggshells."
* Your partner frequently express jealousy, and keeps you from engaging in normal interactions with the opposite sex
* Your partner frequently criticizes you, humiliates you, or undermines your self-esteem
* Your partner keeps you from your friends, family and support groups outside of the relationship
* You caught your partner monitoring your email or internet usage
* Your partner alludes to the possibility of harming you or your loved ones if you "betrayed" or left him or her
* Your partner implies that if you were to leave, he or she may commit suicide or engage in other self-harm
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but simply point to some of the trends of an emotionally abusive relationship. Regarding the last bullet point -- threats of suicide -- it is an especially manipulative tactic. If your partner holds their potential suicide over their head, they are essentially trying to take you hostage. You need to bring in a third party if they resort to this or any other form of violence.
Emotional Abuse: 7 Signs That You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you need to get help or get out, and you need to do it fast. Even if it never escalates to physical abuse, emotionally abusive relationships can be damaging, possibly leading to stress, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder.
Everyone is entitled to a relationship where they are accepted and supported. Relationships should lift you up, not bring you down. They should be a refuge from the hardships of the world; they shouldn’t be a source of constant struggle for one or both partners.
It's common for both women and men to be victims of emotional abuse. Often, men are not comfortable of thinking of themselves as victims – it can feel like admitting to being less of a man. Men sometimes don’t like to admit that things are out of control, or that they can’t “handle” their partner. It can be hard to a man’s ego to seek out help in the form of a counselor or relationship literature.
If you are a man feeling stuck in a relationship that may be emotionally abusive partner, I wrote a manual with one goal in mind: to help you break-up and get on with your life. It can be very difficult to leave a relationship when you feel responsible for your partner and fear for her well-being.